love at first sight..

So am sitting at this coffee place n my friend M is spouting off about the love of her life.. she said it was "love at first sight" and that they were "made for each other". I would have understood "attraction at first sight" (to put it more delicately). But love??? really?? tat too when you are 21??? i am a cynic i agree but i think most of u would agree there can never be love at first sight.

But M protested.. She said she had all the signs.. "You get nervous, start to shake, heart beats faster, a heat wave passes through you making you blush or ears red & your blood starts to boil making it impossible to breathe." I fail to see how this indicates that she was in love.... This is just biochemistry. an upsurge of hormones really....

Basically the dopamine produces a feeling of bliss and the adrenaline produces the racing heart and excitement. So these two chemicals produce elation, intense energy, sleeplessness, craving, loss of appetite and focused attention.

Her argument is tat the fundamental mistake in denying the existence of love at first sight is the assumption that we cannot attribute to a person characteristics that are not present at first sight. Such attribution is done spontaneously by using certain stereotypical evaluations. But i say if going on stereotypical nature, love at first sight can often mislead as it is based more on imagination than on sight.

As far as am concerned love is something tat develops slowly... months ...years you never know..

Now if u said love at first sight for this... ill completly and totally agree .... :)




Im looking forward to your comments.. while we are on the subject.. with ppl falling for online romance ...love at first byte anyone??:P

NUMB

I heard tat the best way of healing is to deal with the pain. i know the blog i wrote is depressing but there you go.. another one.. before you deal with pain i personally feel we go thru a period of numbness. Here is somethin that was penned down when i was in this haze..

I feel it approaching
out of the deep dark alley
I see it first just as a straw in the hay
It is a silent threat, not heard only felt
Like the storm you see quietly but forcefully
dancing on the horizon.

When i look inside,

I find what i dint know i had

I find things that i have forgotten

I used to mend quite easily, not

Knowing that there was

more to the scars than healing.

Sometimes i wonder what’s worse
The sorrow, that empty hollow feeling,

What’s worse? the pain gnawing

Through your bones or the feeling of numbness

which seeps through your bones into those crevices

That you didn’t know you had.

Just remember never let it come so close
That you can feel the mist upon you
Because the second you don't realize
That is the second it grabs a hold on you.

Can it happen to you??

Sometimes we move through life without paying much attention to what is happening around us..The more we hear abougt pain , death, torture the more we become immune to such news. Im not trying to say we have become hard hearted, we have learnt not to let such issues bother us. There have been many instances in which i have blamed the victims for acting without common sense or being at the wrong place at the wrong time.

But when horrible things happen to you, you realise that at certain instances there is nothing you can do. You may think that wat you made was a good judgement call, you can think "i live in this protected bubble" no one is going to hurt me.. But at the end of the day you realise it is not in your hands. Things can change in a matter of few mins and the only thought that remains in your head is "Why me?". After you have time to process if not accept what happened you try to take a positive outlook and ask yourself "Why not me?"

Ya although am very well known about my pessimistic outlook one thing i believe in is you always get only what you can handle. So probably you would have been able to handle the situation better than someone else. More importantly one thing that i have learnt to do is face my fears.

Do things that would not only help you in the process of healing but also would prevent the same thing from happening to another. I am not some teenager who thinks we should do a "Yuva" or "Be a Rebel" but if you think you can do something to do something to protect either you or the people around you do it. However hard it is i think that would be the only way you can actually get over what happens to you. Lets please stop being so immune what is happening around us for you never know it can happen to you.