science n religion

Well I know we started with marriage but we seemed to get into an argument abt science and religion.. Shanks the “matter” you are talking abt when broken down is protons neutrons and electrons- Science. I am not saying I am all science and not religion. For me science is religion..

“Science without religion is lame. Religion without science is blind.” This is Einstein’s quote by which I stand 100%. I am not “pitting Science against Religion all the time to create a war of sorts” all im trying to convey is that concepts of religion can be proven scientifically. I am going to try hard to not sound nerdy and put u all to sleep 

For starters, the whole “karma” concept when broken down is just your law of returns or your law or averages, everything in this world balances out. Did u know that all that religion propagates- love, belief, hope are being traced today to the DNA. Now is where u raise the question “How do murderers be born to nice people?” that can be explained by epigenetics (interested ? wiki it).

Secondly I don’t know if ur familiar with the whole “mannagi kallagi puzhuvagi” concept in Hinduism wat is it if not Darwin’s evolution theory. I don’t know much about other religions but I can assure you Hinduism is firmly rooted in science.

Most of us consider a baby that’s born a miracle. I agree. But if u look in detail at the whole process of development you can see how it is so exquisitely controlled by both the mother’s body and later on the baby’s own brain, again science.

Have u ever heard of a visceral bond, the innate need of us to defend our own. The reason why a brother would stand up for his sister, the reason why a mother knows what her child needs even when the child cannot speak for himself. All this is ingrained in the DNA.

The only basic difference I can find between science and religion is this.

Science says, I have evidences now let's see what conclusions we can get outta them while Religion says, here are some conclusions, now what evidence can we find to support them? It’s just the way u interpret the whole thing.

And I admit there are a lot of things we cannot explain today. I would say it still can be explained scientifically but we are yet to evolve to understand them.

Finally arvi for everything u have a basis in science….. Not claiming to know even an iota abt finance but everything has a logic behind it.. if religion can be explained with science why not finance : P

which one is it?

Sometimes I hate growing up. I have a niece and a nephew, a couple of my good friends are married, one of them even has a kid. All this makes me feel am really old. Most of the girls in my age face the same issue, with almost everyone “so how much more days of freedom do you get?”.


Which brings us to the topic MARRIAGE. The age old debate arranged marriage or love marriage. Despite the fact that I belong to a typical tam bram family ive seen both the kinds in my family. One was joyously welcomed the other was grudgingly accepted.


My friend is going through this whole process of getting the right “marriage partner” and I find this whole process more structured and streamlined than applying for a job.

In a typical arranged marriage a lot of issues are considered. By typical I mean all the various equations like caste, culture, language, age, sub caste, family status, educational qualifications etc are considered. So basically you not only marry the other person but an entire family which is good in an overall view of things.


However one thing that I don’t understand is how on earth do you decide if you vibe with the other person in like wat a week? Yea I agree you get a lot more time after the engagement n all but you cant really go back and say ok this is not the right person for me. The family would freak out.


In this case i agree love marriages make sense, im talking about those wherein you have enough time to know the other person not the ones where there is apparently “love at first sight.” But being an all “bio” person I agree with the fact “everything comes down to hormones.” Like my good friend S pointed out in MOST love marriages it’s the physical attraction that causes the first contact and she feels arranged marriages make more sense coz u first bond intellectually.i agree.

So where do I stand?? Honestly I don’t really know. Its all confusing. Both have their pros and cons.Please leave your views.


Just one suggestion : can we match the horoscopes of the mother in law and daughter in law :P. it would probably save us all from the torture that is the serials..

those wonderful days...

:) bak after a long time… today being friendship day n all… I personally am against all these “days”.. they are just ways for our Baristas, CCDs, Archies to make business. Friendship day seems to make sense to me more than Mother’s day, Father’s day, Valentine’s day etc coz we have just one mom n dad n a true love to pay attention to and I think that should be done more than once a year. But you can never have enough friends right, and its almost impossible to keep in touch with everyone.

I hate those really senti so called poetry which go…. “ill be there with soup when ur sick, catch you if you fall, to help you out when you are in a depressed well, if ur upset ill be there to wipe your tears” here is my version …. Catch me if I fall not likely mostly coz ull end up falling with me coz im bigger than most of my friends :).. if my friends are depressed I will tell them horrible stories about how much worse it could be until they quit whining… and if your sick stay away from me I don wana catch wat u have.. if your upset well come on gives us both an excuse to eat more of DBCs..

I think on this day more than going out and having fun we should actually think about those wonderful times we have had with our friends. Whatever said and done it is your friend who often understands how u feel more than your family probably because of the same age nd the same peer pressure n all… plus its fun to remember those insane things that u did…

This year however in addition to all those wonderful memories I am thinking of some people with who u click so well n hope u never lose em as friends but something happens you never understand whose fault it is and we end up being ppl who are mere acquaintances n worse ppl who cannot even acknowledge each other.

Not to sound so depressing but yea comin bak to those fun times.. what is the one insane most stupid but awesome thing u ever did with ya friends?? Mine is the time when I was in my first yr of college when lik a gang of 6 of us in order to celebrate our passage from school to college, went out for a ride in the ECR at insane speeds (thank god im older n wiser) got caught in the heaviest of rains n without a care in the world ended up goin neck deep in water without a care in the world.. foolish ya.. but still makes me smile when I think of it :) im sure such memos are bound to make any of u smile :D…do leave comments on ur experiences..

constant ripples..

It's all so uncertain

trying to settle on unsteady water

constant ripples, changing futures

my life is like water ,flowing from place to place

and my intentions are diminished over time

they say you change,

its inevitable some lights will glow brighter than others.

My life is changing as am I in a million ways

the doors are staring me in the face

but I choose to see past them to the people

that have left me behind,

some--sneering in my face

and I try to no longer feel around them

or put my feelings on mute.

Nothing comes without consequence

so I push it all aside or stare it down,

eventually it fades out

and words lose their meaning

i try to wash the venom from my skin

while i try to heal

the scars become beautiful

suddenly I am something more

im someone who is fighting

whether i win or lose this battle

i atleast know tat i bothered to give it a try.

extended family

Any tam bram family would definitely have a ambi mama , a baby perippa and a nana athimber ( no particular reference to anyone) . And these people are set to make the life of the nextgen as difficult as possible. Despite their good intentions questions like "When are you planning on getting married?" "How much will u earn when u get a job?" "How well can you cook?" makes u dearly wish tat you had the powers to apparate. More importantly you dont really know the answers to those questions.

If you get into a conversation with a bonafide tam bram you will realise that in a tam bram family mathematics, physics and chemistry are not merely subjects in the school curriculum. It is a religion. Biology is allowed , but only if you are going to be a doctor. And the "tharaka manthiram" of every Tam Bram student is to master them and pave his way through the gates of an IIT, AIIMS, or atleast Anna university. If you are not particularly brilliant you are begrudgingly allowed to get yourself admitted into the local engineering colleges.

So when a decent scoring student like me decided to take up BSc there where hues and cries of "what is wrong with you?" " you will never get paid enough". I battled through but this was easier mainly because i am a girl. If any of you can point out a tam bram guy of this gen who is say a economist, historian, fashion designer id be suprised.

All these things always make me want to keep em at a distance.. Recently i had a change of perspective . Not tat ive lived long but barely escaping with your life intact makes you think. I am very expressive with word but not with emotions. Ive always liked to deal with anger, hurt or grief on my own. But my elder bro pointed out that it was not our "indian" way. And i realise he is perfectly rite..

They may yell at you, tease you to death, bore you with mundane details, but they are there the minute you need them.One thing that amazes is tat you dont even have to be directly related. Still they treat you like their own. My sister in law who i know for barely a year helped me as if i were her own sister.She and my brother made me realize that family is a circle where we learn to like ourselves ,where we learn to make good decisions. Most of all family is a place where we listen and are listened to....

love at first sight..

So am sitting at this coffee place n my friend M is spouting off about the love of her life.. she said it was "love at first sight" and that they were "made for each other". I would have understood "attraction at first sight" (to put it more delicately). But love??? really?? tat too when you are 21??? i am a cynic i agree but i think most of u would agree there can never be love at first sight.

But M protested.. She said she had all the signs.. "You get nervous, start to shake, heart beats faster, a heat wave passes through you making you blush or ears red & your blood starts to boil making it impossible to breathe." I fail to see how this indicates that she was in love.... This is just biochemistry. an upsurge of hormones really....

Basically the dopamine produces a feeling of bliss and the adrenaline produces the racing heart and excitement. So these two chemicals produce elation, intense energy, sleeplessness, craving, loss of appetite and focused attention.

Her argument is tat the fundamental mistake in denying the existence of love at first sight is the assumption that we cannot attribute to a person characteristics that are not present at first sight. Such attribution is done spontaneously by using certain stereotypical evaluations. But i say if going on stereotypical nature, love at first sight can often mislead as it is based more on imagination than on sight.

As far as am concerned love is something tat develops slowly... months ...years you never know..

Now if u said love at first sight for this... ill completly and totally agree .... :)




Im looking forward to your comments.. while we are on the subject.. with ppl falling for online romance ...love at first byte anyone??:P

NUMB

I heard tat the best way of healing is to deal with the pain. i know the blog i wrote is depressing but there you go.. another one.. before you deal with pain i personally feel we go thru a period of numbness. Here is somethin that was penned down when i was in this haze..

I feel it approaching
out of the deep dark alley
I see it first just as a straw in the hay
It is a silent threat, not heard only felt
Like the storm you see quietly but forcefully
dancing on the horizon.

When i look inside,

I find what i dint know i had

I find things that i have forgotten

I used to mend quite easily, not

Knowing that there was

more to the scars than healing.

Sometimes i wonder what’s worse
The sorrow, that empty hollow feeling,

What’s worse? the pain gnawing

Through your bones or the feeling of numbness

which seeps through your bones into those crevices

That you didn’t know you had.

Just remember never let it come so close
That you can feel the mist upon you
Because the second you don't realize
That is the second it grabs a hold on you.